raising little girls

February 21, 2011

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Anyone else terrified to raise little girls in this day & age? I mean, raising kids in general is a lot of pressure but for some reason I feel like raising little girls is such a delicate matter.

For one, they are sensitive and from a young age have this desire to be 
loved, desired, special & beautiful.

Before I had Ainsleigh I started reading "Bringing up Girls" by James Dobson and honestly didn't finish it...BUT took away some very profound truths from this book.

"Little boys want to know, Do I have what it takes? Little Girls want to know, Am I lovely?"

There is so much I wish I could share with you on the differences the book points out in raising the two. It is mind blowing.

What is it about us girls? I will be the first to admit I have countless insecurities. Somewhere along the way I convinced myself that if you were beautiful then you were special & loved. It's everywhere...we get it from media, movies, magazines, dolls.... the list goes on. And it is getting worse by the minute. How do we protect our littles? 
How do we value their beauty but also their own identities in Christ.

Something I am learning is how much I will have to watch how my own insecurities... how they will rub off on Ainsleigh. I need to find my confidence in the Lord NOW, before it's too late. I need to stop being hard on myself NOW...because she will be watching.

I guest blogged for a new, darling friend recently (at the naptime diaries)and found something so incredibly beautiful and touching in one of her posts... I want to share it with you...

"I never expected that having such a gorgeous daughter would make me feel more comfortable with my outsides, too. But when people say we look alike or that she is just a "mini-Jessi", even though I know she really looks like her Daddy, my heart feels happy and more than thankful to be connected to her. And still... so much more, on the inside - I am just weepingly thankful for the hope in Christ that covers all scars. The inside ones I have that I'm just starting to shed light on. The future ones that I'd give my life to keep her from having. The ones I will try harder than harder to keep from giving her, but I will inevitably, as much as I try not to, leave one or two."

BEAUTIFUL. It is so true. I was talking to a friend recently and the same message was conveyed. When you see yourself in your children, a whole new beauty and affirmation is revealed to you. What an HONOR when people see me in Aiden & Ainsleigh.

Mercy Me

Days will come when you don't have the strength
And all you hear is you're not worth anything
Wondering if you ever could be loved
And if they truly saw your heart
They'd see too much

You're beautiful, You're beautiful
You are made for so much more than all of this
You're beautiful, You're beautiful
You are treasured, you are sacred, you are His
You're beautiful

Praying that you have the heart to fight
Cuz you are more than what is hurting you tonight
For all the lies you've held inside so long
But they are nothing in the shadow of the cross

You're beautiful, You're beautiful
You are made for so much more than all of this
You're beautiful, You're beautiful
You are treasured, you are sacred, you are His
You're beautiful

Before you ever took a breath
Long before the world began
Of all the wonders He possessed
There was one more precious
Of all the earth and skies above
You're the one He madly loves
Enough to die

You're beautiful, You're beautiful
In His eyes

10 comments:

  1. oh casey. . . this is so true. . . it is a scary time to raise girls. . . i love your words sweet friend! (ps. . . those blonde curls of aiden's sure remind me of your hair! ;-) BEAUTIFUL!)

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  2. Casey, I love this post. And you know how much I dream of having a little girlie one day :) I see nothing but beauty when I look at you. You are physically gorgeous but also your heart is so beautiful. Scars, insecurities, and all - your true beauty makes my heart happy. I love you friend!!!!!!

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  3. i absolutely love all your posts.

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  4. A great post! I get so caught up in the day to day aspects of parenting that I forget about the big picture.

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  5. I soo understand where you are coming from. I have 2 girls and it honestly terrifies me to raise them in the world we are in...but when people say they look like me (which I know they look just like Mark) little insecurities of mine (though I have many) start to subside. I think they are beautiful and it helps me to feel a little better about me! Thank you for this!

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  6. Even though I do not have a girl (yet!) I worry about this constantly!! It is such a struggle to be a woman of christ in this world, how could I possibly teach someone else to do the same?! God will give us strength!

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  7. thank you for sharing.
    it gives hope that there are mamas out there directing and guiding their girls to be ladies after God's own heart.

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  8. Here's an article that a friend of mine (who has a little girl) recommended.

    http://www.girlsgonewise.com/the-over-sexualization-of-little-girls/

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  9. Precious Cousin!!! LOVE YOU GIRLY and ALL your POSTS!!!

    EsPeCiAlLY ThIs OnE ~;o) Annaleah still enjoys seeing and hearing what her beautiful cousin Casey (& family) is dreaming, developing and creating! I think one of the most beautiful tools that the Lord gave us as women is each other and the encouragement that we can share as we journey along the way...

    YoUr Mama was one of my mentors and 'loves' that I always admired as I was growing up....I know that having someone a little older than I was who was figuring it out, finding her way, and following Him is a priceless gift to give to each generation!!!

    I know HE will place a "Dawnie" or "Casey" in Ainsleigh's life (in addition to her Mama!) that she will see the beauty, the grace, the strength, and HIM to say...wow...that's a girl who's following the Master!

    LOVE you big & your stories and your heart....you are a treasure!
    xoxo
    HeAtHeR ;o)

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  10. Casey, I love this post. And you know how much I dream of having a little girlie one day :) I see nothing but beauty when I look at you. You are physically gorgeous but also your heart is so beautiful. Scars, insecurities, and all - your true beauty makes my heart happy. I love you friend!!!!!!

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